The therapy process is one in which we work together, at your pace, on the issues that you choose to bring. Our first aim will be to build mutual trust and respect, creating a safe, confidential and non-judgemental space for us to explore your thoughts and feelings.
The quality of the relationship, and awareness of the process in the therapy room, is essential for change to take place. The relationship you have with your therapist is important for two reasons.
Firstly, it is essential for you to feel ‘safe’ with me so that you are able to reflect and explore thoughts and feelings that you have without fearing judgement.
Secondly, through an open, honest and authentic relationship with me, we will be able explore how you relate to others outside the therapy room. Patterns of thinking, feeling and behaving are often played out with me in the therapy room. This allows us to explore your experience ‘in the moment’, in real time which allows for much greater awareness to be developed.
We may draw on the theories of Transactional Analysis Psychotherapy to help us to understand why you feel, think and behave as you do in response to particular situations.
Transactional analysis is a form of psychotherapy that, amongst other things, provides us with an understanding of the development of the personality. This enables us to understand our relationships with others. It also enables to us explore patterns in our lives such as strings of broken relationships or lost jobs.
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We may also use techniques from Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) to challenge your assumptions, thoughts and beliefs and gently encourage you to make changes to your behaviours. With CBT we would be working mainly in the here and now exploring the factors that are keeping your problem going rather than looking back at what caused the problem in the first place.
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All these interventions, together with the experience of a healthy, non-judgmental relationship and validation of the impact of your experiences on you, will lead to increased emotional and psychological resilience and wellbeing.